On One Pleasant Evening

One of life's bittersweet truths is that we must release those we love, and the things we cherish. Letting go is painful, but true love allows for the freedom to choose. Khalil Gibran's timeless words, "If you love someone, let them go. If they return, they were always yours. If they don't, they never were," resonate deeply with this reality.

As I reflect on the memories of bygone evenings, some stand out more vividly than others. One such evening brought me three companions who have remained by my side, a constant source of support and comfort. These dear friends hold my secrets close, and their loyalty is unwavering. For their presence in my life, I am grateful, for finding such rare and steadfast friends is a blessing beyond measure.

On one pleasant evening as the sun set, The gentle breeze whispered secrets I won't forget, Reminding me of loved ones who've passed away, Yet urging me to move forward, not to stay.

I begged the breeze to stay with me a while, And as the evening turned to night, I wore a smile, In the moonlight, I heard the silence speak, Of a love that would remain, even when I felt weak.

As time passed by, the moon hid behind a cloud, The night grew darker, the silence spoke loud, Whispering that I was not alone anymore, And that we could talk for hours, and even more.

As the night wore on, the rain began to fall, Renewing my mind, erasing worries tall, It spoke to me of change, and how to accept, To trust in my Lord, for He will never neglect.

That night, the rain of mercy swept away my fear, Filling me with confidence, wiping every tear, I am grateful for the friends I made that night, The Breeze, The Silence, and The Darkness, my guiding light.

So I embrace the winds of change with open arms, Knowing that they bring me closer to my Lord's charms, For on one pleasant evening, I learned to let go, And trust in my Lord, for He will guide me through all my lows.

The deepest desire of every heart is to love and be loved, and while each person's story is unique, we cannot presume to know all of its chapters. Sometimes, it is better to be alone and content than to be surrounded by a crowd and feel utterly alone.

Change is an inevitable part of life, and though painful experiences may linger, we must not allow them to hold us back from progressing. Learning to let go is essential to our growth, and hasty generalizations from a few incidents can only impede our journey forward.

Trust is the bedrock upon which the world runs. The Quran speaks of how the trust was offered to the heavens, the earth, and the mountains, and yet they all declined to bear it, while man took it upon himself, though he was ignorant and unjust. Such mutual trust is the foundation of society and relationships.

Love and gratitude are the cornerstones of a fulfilling life, making each day worth living.

 

Importance of Family

Meaning of Family

  Everyone might have a different meaning of family, in general most of them would be agree that family is a group of individuals which share a bond of love, care, trust and mutual feelings of welfare of each other. Behind every success we achieve or have achieved, there is a great role of our family.  When we started walking, it was our parents, grandfather, some relative, who hold our finger too took us to the school, our foods, our school and every expense they bear for us. When we fell ill, they were worried about our health and passed many sleepless nights, took care of us in all the hard times so we may recover soon and sleep peacefully.

 Due to their love. support, hard work and prayers, today we have achieved many accomplishments smalls or big. God has not blessed humans but when we see in nature, we find how God has put love in the hearts of animals, a female monkey and dog, keep even their dead babies attached to themselves unless the dead body of the baby rot and smell very bad. The bond of connection is present in the other living creatures.  Even many animals, birds live in communities, how a mother bird bring food to feed their babies which do not have got feathers on their bodies. Ants and Bees like insects too have a very strong social structure. Many researches have proven that many animals, birds, insect like ant and bees live in communities and have their social framework.  One may also say that family is an emotion feeling of belonging and love not to possess by humans alone but other fellow creatures to possess this noble feeling without human conscience.

Family in scriptures:  

When we look into the scriptures, we find the family is created by the God himself, one family in which we are born was not our choice. One is the family that we choose to be this worldly family the people we associate with friends, life partner and the group we are heartly attached like alma-matter, workplace etc. One such beautiful Shlok is here.

 The World Is a Family

One Is a Relative, The Other Stranger,
Say the Small Minded.
The Entire World Is a Family,
Live the Magnanimous….

—Maha Upanishad 6.71

The similar message of human being to be a family is given in The Noble Quran, that humankind is born from a single parent, one female and male so, they are brother of each other. The same message can be also found in The Holy Bible.

“O mankind, indeed, we have created you from a male and female and made you people and tribes that you may know each other…” Quran (14:13)

 

We can find numerous message and values in the scriptures, those values that are required to bind a family. He would be a very unfortunate person in this world who do not have a family to love him.

Whenever we read the message of wisdom our heart recognizes it as we knew it before.

 

“A wise son brings joy to his father, but a foolish man despises his mother.” (Proverbs 15:20)

 

“Children obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. “Honour your father and mother” (this is from the commandments of promise) (Ephesians 6:1, ESV)

 

AUSTAA Family

In the year 2020, when the world was facing Covid 19, It was then some of my senior introduce me to the AUSTAA family. There I saw the collective effort of many of our AU alumni and classmates to make the data base of different region of India to provide the basic helpline numbers and useful information at the hand. They helped many students of AU as well as other universities in the preparation of many exams like JAM, ISS, RBI etc.

All these selfless service for the betterment of the Allahabad University student of statistics department and giving back to their alma mater and country that is also an example of a family, The AUSTAA family. Its network contains many professors, data scientist, ISS, IAS, IPS and many other dignitary officers and professionals.

When I got the admission at IIT Kanpur, In the first week away from my home, taking a little time to adapt the new environment. I shared this news with my sister Sumbul only and as this news reached to Dr Niyati Joshi Sir, Himanshu Sir, Nausheen Appi and few others all of them personally talk to me over the phone and provided me the necessary motivation and support, that made me feel like a family which care for each other well being.

Effect on health

Humans are social creature, and they cannot leave in isolation. Isolation may lead to severe mental health problems like stress, depression, anxiety and other health problems. Lost wealth can be regained, health may be recovered if someone is mentally strong but the one who has lost his peace of mind has lost everything.  People who were once victim of child abuse, unfortunate to get love and care of a family. They grow with various mental problems and some turn into anti-social individual. It is the support of family and friends that gives us strength at the low time and fight all the odds, during stress and health issues.

 These days where we see the trend of single family is prevalent, the children do not get proper care and emotional support as both parents work or the children feel the need some extra attention earlier, they get from their grandparents and other members of their joint family.  In the joint family, where a child use to get the love of their grandparents showed overall better growth and parents face lesser problem in nurturing children. It is hard to believe that nearly 138 million elderly people living in India of which 18 million senior citizens are homeless as they are abandoned by their families, and they don’t have any means of income and financial support.

Conclusion

The family has a great importance for every individual it cannot be denied.  We should try to spend at least few hours of a day with family so we may share our thoughts, to give and take support in the family to those who need and take when we required. There are several ways to stay connected with the family. 

We may spend quality time at home, go out with the family at home, if we stay far and family is big so we may make a family gathering, talk with them through social media like WhatsApp group, family page. If we are living away so we may talk to them on phone, video call that make feels oneself connected. Spending time with family and being connected to them enhance the mental wellbeing, help us feel loved, reduces stress and give our lives a reason to live. A life is beautiful that is lived selflessly for others giving back more than we have received to our family and the whole worldly family.

Agony of The Pain

Pain is something which everyone wants to avoid , rarely appreciated and hardly embrace. If there would be no pain how could one know what the pleasure feels like . The lives  which appears so perfect from far may have been immersed in deep pain and grief. How will we get this that our pain is lesser than that felt by the most of them on the globe. We are not grief by our grief but by comparing the pompous glamourous lives of others, which are like the moon bright and shiny from far but have many hole and dent in th real. We can't escape from the reality for long we must learn to embrace it and we find the agony of the pain and sympathy towards it. People will come and go ,for a reason and purpose , teaching us the important lesson of our lives. With positive mental attitude we can handle the biggest of the problems very easily but with the burden of remorse for the things which are not in our control will lead us nowhere. So Embrace whatever comes to you as the blessing of The Supreme Power.

Agony of The Pain

We don't know future

who will be our friend tomorrow

while smilling all the time yesterday

I never thought of pain of today

With pain , eyes fill with tears

with pain, none want to stay

with pain, people fret and fume

I disliked him much earlier

thinking how bad he is

He make people cry

My perception altered that day

when I huged him tightly

He started crying with agony

He revealed how he felt alone

isolated, exiled and boycotted.

Reason and Emotion poetry

Mind says to me You are bad

Heart does not admit the same

A quarrel of rationality and Emotion

I am with reasons You are with emotion

I feel helpless in this battle

grotesque of losing you terrify me

You decieved me injured the reasons

The rationality wants to avenge

but heart supresses all its attempt

Its says to me If you cant avenge

so atleast distance myself from you

I have tried but you again came closer

A battle between heart and reason

I fear of its dire consequence

If I avenge then I will loss you

If I dont then I would loss reasons

both way death hard choice to choose

I would have choosed you but

You were more happy with somebody else

I decided to forelorn you albeit I love you...

• sometime we encounter with such dillema in our life where we have to choose between two choices contrary to each other , one has to choose and we would be responsible for our choices. We are humans first we pursuaded by  emotion then by reasons. One should not lost one's conscience for the sake of heartly desire...